Everyone should have a place in their home that is quiet and inviting. It doesn’t need to be big, it doesn’t need to be out in the open, it doesn’t need to be fancy; it simply needs to be a place that beckons you to sit, drink a cup of coffee or tea and simply be. We have a spot in our home that never had a real purpose and after several attempts of trying to make it a “functional room” we decided to turn it into a serene space that gets used far more than it ever did when we attempted to make it a more active room to accommodate our family or a larger group.
The key: Fill it with things that make you happy and at home. I enjoy the color green and went as far to put it on our walls. Risky, for sure, but such a fun space to be quiet in. It looks more like a bedroom in a room that is surely not that, as it is off our kitchen with no doors or closet, however, I used what we had to make it work. The two rows of pillows turn the daybed into more of a couch. It also functions as an extra sleeping space when we have lots of company over. Each morning, I wake up earlier than the others and come down to freshly brewed coffee that I prepped the night before, give our dog his eagerly awaited morning treat (a milkbone) and go and read in this space. It is my needed quiet time with the Lord that speaks truth into every part of my being and equips me for what lies ahead that will require this fueling time. When I first started diligently carving out this time in my day, I would struggle to get out of bed, however, it has become a part of my day that I would be sad to miss. I find that (trust me when I say this. . . ) I am excited for the alarm to sound. Truly! Working Moms, stay with me! I realize what I am suggesting here is going to require you to get up even earlier than you already do. Start small– maybe just 10-15 minutes earlier and see where that leads.
We, as moms, need time to ourselves, and in order to ensure we get that, it requires some effort on our part. Waking up early requires that we forfeit more needed sleep to get equipped for the busy day that waits ahead. The minute children are up, the demands come at us like arrows from a skilled archer. In order to handle those arrows with grace, we need to get prepared and the best way I have found to do that is (1) Wake before the children do and (2) Have quiet time with the Lord. On the days when these things do not happen, I am off my game the second the children wake and am crabby because they are urgent to eat a breakfast that I have not even yet thought about. It is a domino effect that keeps gathering strength and speed until I am at my breaking point (and the clock has not struck 8 O’clock yet). Can you relate to this?
I can’t tell you that all the problems and frustrations vanish by having this quiet time in the morning; they certainly still exist. The difference is my reaction to the arrows that I am bombarded with. I am able to gracefully move into the morning routine not because of me, but solely because of the Lord’s leading and teaching. My perspective is off of me and on to what might honor Him — serving others with kindness and love.